Sex Toys for Couples: No not for only Perverts anymore

Sex Toys for Couples: No not for only Perverts anymore

Sex toys have gradually emerged from the taboo zone: now it’s just one of the easiest and most understandable ways to diversify sex life and get to know your own body better. And yet in this subject there is still a lot of unsaid. We tried to figure out why in the world where the Hitachi Magic Wand had become a familiar device since the time of “Sex and the City”, the most famous male masturbator Fleshlight is still treated with at least fear or contempt. There are also best sex toys for couples.

It is foolish to deny that female and male sexuality is still perceived differently. They ignored the first one for a long time: until the 1990s, scientists could not even imagine how the clitoris was arranged. Men have historically felt freer in sex, but ideas about their sexuality are also surrounded by stereotypes. It is believed that men are arranged very simply: they are always ready for sex and, unlike women, who need complex manipulations to orgasm; they should have a couple of simple movements. “Unfortunately, male sexuality is traditionally understood as primitive, the purpose of which is solely to get an orgasm. Often it is implied that the erogenous zone of a man is the same – the penis, and any variety – from the evil one. This cannot but impose restrictions on the process of men’s researching their own sexuality,”explains psychologist.

Male masturbation is spoken about more openly – in American, for example, there is practically no neutral word describing female masturbation, but jokes with the verb “masturbate” sound with enviable regularity. It is believed that all men masturbate, but those who confess that they do this are considered “strange” or “losers”: a “real” man can get any partner; therefore masturbation is supposedly a defeat. In addition, the image of a masturbating woman is much more sexualized: this story, for example, is often found in porn.

Pop culture maintains a wary attitude towards male masturbation – think of the strange and awkward heroes of “American Pie” or “Lars and a real girl.” “In itself, an act of masturbation is, at best, understood as something forced, replacing“real”sex in the absence of a partner, at worst – as a bad habit that testifies to a man’s sexual insolvency. With such a disrespectful attitude towards the process that gives you pleasure, the possibility of upgrading it in the form of buying a masturbating toy seems to be a luxury.

All this is reflected in the attitude to sex toys: if the gadgets for women are increasingly being spoken of as a way to know yourself and your body, then toys for men are first and foremost a replacement for a partner, and nothing more. History is a prime example.

Fleshlight, one of the world’s most famous sex gadgets for men

Its inventor Steve Shubin jokingly told his wife that he needed something for a while until the couple could have sex (both were about forty when the woman became pregnant, and the doctors advised them to refrain to reduce the risk of miscarriage) – so the masturbator appeared. Fleshlight helps a man to fulfill his “biological needs” without prejudice to women: They do not exist to satisfy our sexual needs; responsible men decide this question themselves. I know that if I do not control my sexuality, I will become angry at my wife, because she is not as sexually active as I would like. I had to grow up and learn to cope on my own. She is not an escort or sex device.

Many sex toys are still being positioned as a way to replace a partner, no matter how similar they are to a living person from realistic full-height dolls to individual body parts with names like Fuck My Face Blonde or Jenna’s Perfect Pair.

Producing sex toys

Prostate massagers are one of the most frequently purchased gadgets by men, along with masturbators and women’s toys: enjoyment. Moreover, it is very simple to distinguish one from the other: those who are prescribed prostate massage try to take something of smaller dimensions, while others choose toys of maximum sizes. Among men, inflatable butt plug is very popular with us, for example. Particularly those themed ones like the Halloween-themed butt plugs out there.

At the same time, heterosexual men are often embarrassed by the fact that they like anal gadgets – this allegedly may mean that they are homosexual, despite the fact that pegging is a common heterosexual practice. The unpopularity of penetrating toys can probably be explained by the fact that for many heterosexual men, any sexual practices related to the anus and prostate are taboo. Recognition of this facet of one’s sexuality can cause a partner’s misunderstanding and a battery of homophobic jokes among his buddies.

Firstly, the stereotype that men do not need much, there is no sense to include fantasy – it is enough just to provide stimulation. As a result, the appearance of toys is boring, and conceptually they are mostly banal. In her opinion, men do not have the habit of discussing their own feelings and experiences, so it’s difficult for them to perceive devices as a way to gain new experience, which is why the market itself does not develop.There are dozens of women bloggers telling about devices for adults, the revealed pros and cons, and personal experience of using them, but not men, and the overwhelming part of the materials about toys are editorial with stories about the functionality of devices, and not about give the case. Women are more diverse and the basic set for their stimulation will be more complicated than the male one; In addition, it is customary to put experiments in pairs on women: Their discomfort is less taken into account, and if a man wants diversity, he would rather buy a butt plug with rhinestones for a girlfriend or wife, rather than the best kegel balls for adults. So the main buyer of sex toys is still a man, but he buys mostly women.…

21 Men Describe The Best Sex They Ever Had In Graphic Detail

21 Men Describe The Best Sex They Ever Had In Graphic Detail

1. She Took COMPLETE control

She got on top, pinned my arms down, and then proceeded to use me to get herself off. I could understand that sounding selfish, but being used as an object for her sexual pleasure was absolutely awesome.

—deleted

2. Lazy Hotel Sex. Best sex of my life.

My Fiance and I had just driven 16 hours straight to get to Pensacola, FL. We had traveled there to get a FL marriage license because we were getting married in Key West later in the month. We were both exhausted and a little delirious when we finally checked into the hotel and got to our room. I asked her if she wanted to have “sleepy lazy hotel sex.” We made love for over an hour just in the missionary position, barely moving… just kissing and basically just writhing in each other’s arms. We both had the most mind blowing orgasms simultaneously, we just laid there spooning while I was still inside her until we fell asleep.

We awoke maybe 12 hours later and went for round two… been chasing that high ever since. We’ve been married about a year now.

—deleted

3. A Lifechanging Fling

Wall of text coming. I need to get this off my chest.

They most primal sex organ is the brain itself. If your brain is running smoothly, nothing but the most awesome sex will happen. And the brain gets on full revs when there is chemistry when you click, you just match with the right person.

Without that connection, good sex can be good, but nothing beats having your brain intoxicated with love hormones. NOTHING.

I was (am) coming out of a sexless marriage, where sex was, well, bad. She was tired of being played by men, completely focused on her research work and just shy about men overall.

We met at a conference abroad. She liked me but was too shy to approach. We got introduced. We clicked instantly. We started jumping lectures to talk about ourselves and our work. Still, I was not expecting anything else at this point. The first night I just awkwardly escorted her to her hotel and walked to mine.

The next day, I saw her again, looking for me among the crowd. We spent the day together, sacrificing some of her lectures so she could go to my lectures and vice versa (in conferences, it is common that several lectures run at the same time, forcing the attendees to pick between them). Again, we were just spending time together…not really looking for anything else.

Then comes the night, we recruit other people, we go for dinner, she quickly picks a seat next to me, still shy about being open with her feelings. An old lady comes begging for some money, she is super sweet to I gave her money and start a funny conversation with me. I could see in my girl’s eyes her heart was melting and that gave me a huge rush.

We ate, went for drinks, then to a salsa bar. Danced with some other girls, just teaching them a few steps here and there. Then she asked me to dance with her. And this is when the magic starts to happen: she wasn’t very trained dancing salsa and bachata (a super sexy latin rhythm) however, she held on to me and within a minute we were flying over the dancefloor. We could not even believe this was happening. We danced for hours. Everyone else got bored and left. I kicked the DJ out of the booth (he was a pretty chill guy) so we could play our favorites over and over.

Then we sat down to rest. Then we talked. Then I kissed her. That first kiss made my mind explode. The first thing that rushed into my mind was that I haven’t been kissed like this in no less than a decade. It was her lips, it was her enthusiasm, she kissed me like she wanted to kiss me forever, we could not even stop to breath… we kissed and kissed until the bar closed. I could just not get enough.

The walk back was horrible: we could do more than ten steps without collapsing on some wall kissing again. We decided to go to my place. We had sex until the morning. All over the place. No porn acrobatics, no acting. Just honest, sincere, wild sex.

I could not sleep for the few hours I had left before the conference. I had cheated for the first time. Yet I haven’t felt so loved and cared for in years. We cried tears of joy when she woke up.

The next two days were similar: dancing for hours, swimming naked in the sea at 4 in the morning, then rushing up to our bed.

Came back home and filed for divorce. I haven’t been happier in years. It was not about the sex: it was about affection and boundless love. That is what makes the best sex.

—Pastelitomaracucho

4. For All To See

Top floor of a massive apartment complex with big windows. Bent her over and railed her against the window with her naked.

Super hot, only lasted like 3 and half minutes but we both climaxed so that was a plus.

—NuthinToHoldBack

5. Spongebob, yes, spongebob

One night my girlfriend and I had rented some Spongebob Seasons. She decides to go to the bathroom and says she’ll be right back. She’s in there for 20 minutes.

Finally, she comes out and tells me to not turn around and to close my eyes. I feel her kiss me, rope go around my hands, and then I open my eyes and she’s in a schoolgirl outfit.

We fucked like crazy for about 3 hours.

Best part was: Since spongebob was still playing in the background, we would hear a funny part about to come up, stop and laugh, then continue on.

Best. Sex. Ever.

—deleted

6. Breakup Sex

The weekend my ex and I broke up. We’d been dating for ~a year. Things had been tense for a while. Not bad, just tense. I was working 4-midnight, and she was working like 15 hour days finishing her last year of Med School. We had a talk on Friday night and decided we were going to try to make it work. We reassured each other that we loved each other and then proceeded to literally spend the next two days having sex. Sometimes hardcore and brutal, sometimes so loving and gentle it was less sex than hugging with penetration. We went through every permutation of every position and act I can imagine (minus butthole pleasures). We went at it for 2 days, only stopping to order food and buy Gatorade.

Sunday morning we went to brunch and it was just kind of…off. We broke up while sharing eggs Benedict and after that day I never saw or heard from her again.

—DesCo83

7. A vacation to the Black Sea

Soon after getting married we went on a sort of the vacations to the Black Sea area. There we rented one of those triangular cottages that have roof for their walls. It was completely surrounded by pines and cypresses so despite being flimsy it was rather private. Thing didn’t have any AC and would heat up like an oven, there was just enough space inside for two pulled together twin beds. On the first day there, on the way to the cottage, we picked up a half gallon jug of local young wine, still local grapes and giant chunk of honeycomb, dripping with honey.

Once we got to the cottage our clothes just fell off and pretty much stayed off for the rest of the week there. Something in the air, wine, honey and fruit diet, all those cypresses and pines around – I don’t know what caused it. It was the best sex ever. We’d stop mid-fuck because we were just too hot, jump out on the little porch and pour water from those 2-liter soda bottles on each other – that was the only way to cool down – and get right back to it.

—deleted

8. The Figure Skater

I once had a FWB thing with a figure skater. She had the strongest pelvic floor (kegel) muscles I have ever experienced–like, phenomenally strong. She was on top of me and basically alternated “milking” me and doing slow, drawn-out up-and-down motions. I was at that “almost about to cum” stage for like 20 minutes–I would want her to just FINISH ALREADY and she wouldn’t move a muscle, and just when the feeling was about the pass–SQUEEZE.

—deleted

9. Thor

Had a girl over and started having sex. It was great, and after a half hour I’m close to finishing. Part of the reason we started is because it was raining outside and she was turned on by it, the sound. During my vinegar strokes, a big lightning strike comes through the window and glows on my face. And as a I let out the last thrust, the loudest thunder crack you’ve ever heard rattles the house as I’m climaxing. I’ll never forget the look on her face. It was awesome.

TL;DR She had sex with Thor.

—hammerboner

10. Lady On The Streets

I was dating this really shy, quiet, slightly nerdy girl. You wouldn’t describe her as sexy, but as adorable. A nice girl. A sweetheart. She was totally the exact opposite of my type, but she was so smart, and an all-around really good person.

Anyway, the 1st time we had sex, she asked me to lie on the bed and close my eyes. I assumed she was just a little self-conscious or something. When she told me to open them, she had her hair down and was wearing black lace lingerie and fishnets. Giving me a mischevious, Stoya like smile she starts massaging my entire body, teasing her tongue all over it and lightly blowing while I’m damn near going crazy. By the time she finally whispered “take me now” I had never before or after wanted a woman so fucking bad. Goddamnit I miss her.

—deleted

11. Closet floor sex

Her mom was asleep on the other side of the house…it was late…we were horny…I grabbed a condom and we rushed into her closet, since her bed was squeaky and her closet had carpet, we dropped our pants and I fucked her. She had to brace herself against the wall so as not to bump into it, and she had to restrain herself from making noise because it felt so good. Right before I came, she pulled her shirt down, and the sight of her enormous boobies bouncing up and down pushed me over the edge…holy fuck it was sexy.

—deleted

12. Dirty And Raunchy

I feel like a lot of people equate “best” with emotion and intimacy. If I’m being honest the best sex I’ve ever had was the exact opposite; it was dirty and raunchy and that’s what made it so good.

Went out for a night on the town with a girl I’d gone on a few dates with. We’d hooked up before but always in a pretty tame way because roommates were always around. This time I had my own personal suite to come home to. Both of us came back absolutely plastered. I literally tore off her cocktail dress and threw her on the bed, blindfolded her with my tie, wrapped my belt around her neck and fucked the ever-living shit out of her until the sun came up. I distinctly remember her telling me she was my “own personal fuck-toy” and that she wanted me to “tear her apart like the useless whore I am.” It was savage. It was barbaric. And it was fucking awesome.

—BTHOvapes

13. The Cocky Girl

Best sex I ever had was the one girl who had the confidence and gusto to …