Role play is one of the best ways of flirting with your wildest sexual fantasies. So it’s no surprise that a lot more of us these days are enjoy exploring a range of possible sexual scenarios through acting and imagination – aka roleplay. Remember, whenever you’re trying a new sex thing, you must have a good old chat with your partner beforehand. You must discuss expectations, and boundaries, and safe words. And there has to be trust and honesty in your relationship – because this will make sure you have a safe (and fun!) experience. Sometimes though, the pressure to be inventive AND sexy can become too much in the heat of the moment, and you can find yourself drawing a total mind-blank about which roles you might actually want to play.
So, here are some role play ideas for you to have at your fingertips, ready to act out at a moment’s notice…
GETTING IT ON WITH YOUR MANAGER OR WORK SUPERIOR
Role play often relies on breaking taboos and creating power dynamics. Therefore, unsurprisingly, work based role plays are a bedroom staple. But, if you want to truly channel the office vibes, maybe leave the bed altogether and try having sex on a table or desk. While this can result in a slightly bruised bum or desperate fumbling as you try to move your laptop out of harm’s way, overall, it’ll be worth it. Just make sure you’ve moved any sharp pencils from the area…
THE CLASSIC MAID OR BUTLER
This role play can have as much historical flair as you like. If you’re a keen historian and/or have watched Downtown Abbey (aren’t they roughly the same thing?), you might want to play at being a member of home help staff, obeying a master or mistress.
AN EROTIC MASSAGER
Given that massages essentially make someone as horny as possible without ever getting them off, a massage that takes you ‘all the way’ is a real treat.
But, if you’re playing the masseuse, make sure you pay attention to all the different parts of your partner’s body before you start to getting it on. That way the pay off will be even more satisfying.
SOMEONE YOU DON’T KNOW
Get your partner to approach you as though you’ve never met and are complete strangers, to treat your body like they’ve never seen it before, and to take you with all the frenzied lust that drives two people who don’t know each other’s names to jump into bed together. It’s the best of both worlds: all the fun of stranger sex without any of the anxiety that the person you’re sleeping with might be an absolute f*ckboy/girl/person who will ghost you tomorrow.
This role play’s an easy one to accessorise with wigs, too.
AN AUTHORITY FIGURE (GP OR MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL)
The doctor/patient scenario is hot because it involves an authority figure. But this becomes still hotter when the authority figure has a reason to touch you – AND if you have a sexy doctor’s or nurse’s outfit.
Try giving your partner a ‘physical’ and explain to them that a normal side effect of such procedures is that they might start to really, really want to have sex with you.
OUTDOORSY SEX SCENES
By this I mean rural romps… I’m talking farm hand or milk maid based role play. Practice perfecting your southern American twang and pretend you’re rolling around in a haystack. Try your best to recreate the naughtiness of doing it alfresco as well as the romance of the wilderness – even if in reality, you’re only shagging with the window open and rolling about laughing at those dodgy accents.
YOUR FIRST TIME
Because, for most people, actually losing their virginity was either painful, embarrassing or unfulfilling, it’s fun to be able to recreate the event. Maybe put on a soundtrack that reminds you of your teens and try and remember that time of sexual frustration. Bring that extreme desire back to the surface and allow it to erupt all over again – but this time, hopefully, with a little more control and skill.
It doesn’t matter how flexible you are – anyone can make a yoga role play work. You can go pro, contorting your body into impressive yet erotic positions, or you can embrace being a total novice and simply waggle your bum in the air claiming it’s ‘downward dog’. Whatever your aptitude, pretending to be a yoga instructor can be a particularly fun, experimental role play, encouraging you to adopt ambitions positions and to serenely instruct your partner where to place their limbs.
Whatever your personal, political stance on the monarchy, regal role plays can be very hot. You may not fancy Prince William, but that doesn’t mean you don’t fancy playing-at being a princess. I mean, I reckon the only reason we haven’t abolished the monarchy is that we find the whole thing, well, sexy. But don’t let the royals have all the fun – bring the eroticism of dynasty to your one bedroom flat and command that your lover reveal their *ahem* sceptre.